She has accepted you as you are, but for those looking in and drawing comparisons, you rank in the NO section. Potential in-laws are the stuff of nightmares and potentially the biggest auditions you'll face. They are looking at their daughter who is accomplished in her occupation, earns good money, has got a solid foot on the property ladder and is ready for a serious relationship. Then they are looking at you. A man who on the other side of the fence has a part time job that yes; gives you time to do your art, but no matter how impressive your art it is, potential and un-hired skill don't pay for dates...or anything else for that matter. If the positions were reversed no one would care as women aren't required to lead in finances when dealing with relationship matters even though plenty of women do.
Society is watching you Mr. Male and in a different way that it watches her and in reaching a certain age, you're supposed to be established, rich, successful and the epitome of achievement or at the very least financially secure - oh how I hate that term. But surely people realise that life is dynamic and unpredictable and that no one can control all outcomes? Ha! When it's the successful that are preaching, they seem to forget that all paths are different. Yet judgemental minds will forever produce the rampant waggling of tongues. So what does one do? One puts himself into the universe, in the positive and sees what the cosmos will bring. You have nothing to lose...bruv you have nothing anyway! RC |