The Deadly Debaters

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, even if what someone else says is diametrically opposed to everything you believe. However, disrespect, rudeness and narrow mindedness, are not the best attributes to possess, if you are going to regularly take part in online talks. In addition the role of proximity has unfortunately made cowards; brave and because people are now largely unaccountable for the inconsiderate, vile and evil things they say. If you know causing offence on purpose is likely to get you one serious punch in the face, you are more likely to check your language and tour manners. Having to deal with people of this sort has influenced a mini exodus or a very carefully considered and revised input, whereby people are retreating from debate or at the very least changing the way they use their social media. Who is it we are tired of? Who is it that is driving us away? It's these 14 mindsets.

Top 14 Online Narcissistic Thoughts & Actions 

​1. I believe, that all people online are free to have an opinion, as long as their opinion is the same as mine. 

2. I will read your posts, ignoring all the good and valid points, even the points that I agree upon, but then make a concerted effort to weed out something 'bad', just so I can come in and be contrary.

3. Infact, I will only ever appear on your posts to be contrary or point out mistakes and if it's a good day - both!

4. Secretly, I don't like you, yet I feel compelled to stay online friends...maybe it's so I can enact: points 2 and 3.

5. By default, I am always right, so rather than just stating what I believe, whilst still allowing you to have your own opinion, I am willing to die, to make you change your mind. In fact you should die for not agreeing with me.

6. I will apply rules in how we manage our online exchange, but only let you know that these rules actually exist, once discussions are not going my way.

7. I will completely forget that we are likely to meet-up at a non-keyboard warrior event and in your presence, act like I have never insulted you.

8. I will not take you're established nature into consideration and will always see the worst in you because something deep inside of me is uncomfortable with you. You have never done anything negative to me in person or online, yet you bother me...a lot. Stop being so free, real and happy, it's irritating.

9. Philosophies that I have never followed in my real life, will be part of my avatar personality. I will defend these philosophies wholeheartedly, all the while forgetting that I also exist in the real world, where people actually see me live the opposite lifestyle and know about allllll the mistakes I have made.

10. I will read your posts and try my best to bend whatever you say to mean something completely different, just so I can be contrary. I will edit points to contend with issues I didn't think of beforehand always do my best to win! I will even argue on points that you didn't actually make because winning on social media is everything to me! If you say 'A', I will say 'B', if you then agree and also say 'B' I will then say X, Y, Z.

11. When I see you in public, I will ignore you, then if I see you later that year, acknowledge you...then if I see you again, semi-acknowledge you. Then come back onto social media and be your best friend...until it's time to start again. My sometimish calibre is Olympic class.

12. Even though you deleted me, I will develop a memory problem, that will erase the serious issues we had with each other in the past, that led to the separation. Then some years later, I will try to reconnect online. If this is not possible, I will watch you from afar or mine information from mutual contacts and comment in places you do. If I bump into you in public, I will act as if the past was all hunky-dory. I don't know why I do this, perhaps I hate, love, want, fear, want to be you? Or maybe I am just messed up.

13. Even though you put some things out as pure information or entertainment, I will still try to create an unnecessary or unwanted debate, which will hopefully lead me to enact points 2 and 3.

14. In seeing you succeed in some way, I will now try to join forces with you, forgetting, that you had tried to form an alliance in the past, where I had denied you because of my fear of your talent and of course my general insecurity. Hence my reason to lash out at the world...from a safe place.

TOP 10 PSYCHOLOGICAL COMPLEXES

God Complex
"A person with a god complex may refuse to admit the possibility of their error or failure, even in the face of irrefutable evidence, intractable problems or difficult or impossible tasks."

Superiority Complex
"An attitude of superiority which conceals actual feelings of inferiority and failure."

Hero Complex
"The hero syndrome is a phenomenon affecting people who seek heroism or recognition, usually by creating a desperate situation which they can resolve."

Electra & Oedipus Complex
Electra ​"is a girl's psychosexual competition with her mother for possession of her father. The positive Oedipus complex refers to a child's unconscious sexual desire for the opposite-sex parent and hatred for the same-sex parent.

Don Juan Complex
"Don Juanism or Don Juan syndrome is a non-clinical term for the desire, in a man, to have sex with many different female partners".

Madonna/Whore Complex​
Madonna–whore complex "is the inability to maintain sexual arousal within a committed, loving relationship".

Guilt Complex
"An obsession with the idea of having done wrong".

Persecution Complex
"An irrational and obsessive feeling or fear that one is the object of collective hostility or ill-treatment on the part of others."​

"Martyr Complex
"A martyr complex is a destructive pattern of behavior in which a person habitually seeks suffering or persecution as a way to feel 'good' about themselves.

Inferiority Complex
"An unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere, sometimes marked by aggressive behaviour in compensation."