There are many considerations to make, when creating an invitation list for a wedding. When not invited, from someone you thought you were close to, it can seemingly feel like a hurtful snub. But hear the 10 potential reasons, as to why you didn't receive a wedding summons and you might feel better...or worse.
10 REASONS YOU DID NOT
GET A WEDDING INVITE
GET A WEDDING INVITE
1. They Don't Really Like You
Whether you know the bride, the groom or both parties, the strength of your relationship, in your mind, may differ to what is actually in theirs. You might be surprised to know how many family members or 'friends' you think you are cool with you, don't actually like you. I don't know why there is a need to be fake. I mean for the sake of family peace, you can say hi and bye to keep it civil, but the fact that they go through an entire performance in your company, good enough to lead you to believe that there is love involved, will leave you confused when an invitation never comes.
Whether you know the bride, the groom or both parties, the strength of your relationship, in your mind, may differ to what is actually in theirs. You might be surprised to know how many family members or 'friends' you think you are cool with you, don't actually like you. I don't know why there is a need to be fake. I mean for the sake of family peace, you can say hi and bye to keep it civil, but the fact that they go through an entire performance in your company, good enough to lead you to believe that there is love involved, will leave you confused when an invitation never comes.
2. The Strength Of Your Connection Is Through Somebody Else
Not to diminish the connections you have established with people, but I think we all can say, that we have friends that fall into the 'casual' category. They might be people that we were introduced to via a 'proper' friend and following that meet, we only then see them at social gatherings. This person and yourself may get on extremely well, when you do connect, but beyond the coincidental meetings, neither of you try to see each other, aside of your mutual friend being present. So, if this person gets married, yes, you might end up on the invitation list, but probably as an afterthought. However, it is much more likely that you won't.
Not to diminish the connections you have established with people, but I think we all can say, that we have friends that fall into the 'casual' category. They might be people that we were introduced to via a 'proper' friend and following that meet, we only then see them at social gatherings. This person and yourself may get on extremely well, when you do connect, but beyond the coincidental meetings, neither of you try to see each other, aside of your mutual friend being present. So, if this person gets married, yes, you might end up on the invitation list, but probably as an afterthought. However, it is much more likely that you won't.
3. You Are Family, But You Are Not Close
Your parents might have cousins and other relatives that they authentically go way back with. However, it is very common, that down the generations, the new editions that join the family line, don't maintain family ties. Now that the connection is weak, when the newer family members get married, you/your family can easily find yourselves sidelined and not even out of spite - it's just that you don't really exist in their lives. In some cultures, certain relatives would still be expected to be invited, no matter the relationship status at the time and this can be a cause of some serious family friction.
Your parents might have cousins and other relatives that they authentically go way back with. However, it is very common, that down the generations, the new editions that join the family line, don't maintain family ties. Now that the connection is weak, when the newer family members get married, you/your family can easily find yourselves sidelined and not even out of spite - it's just that you don't really exist in their lives. In some cultures, certain relatives would still be expected to be invited, no matter the relationship status at the time and this can be a cause of some serious family friction.
4. Minimal Service, Small Reception
Weddings are expensive! From the hiring of the hall to the to the catering, even a small wedding can cost a mint. Paying per head ultimately creates a 'most essential' invitee list. And if you have a massive family, you know, what a serious headache this is going to be. You try to please yourself, family and friends, but you know something has to give. You may be on the receiving end of being cut. You were wanted, but a place had to be given to Great Auntie Susu, even though the bride and groom have never met the damn woman.
Weddings are expensive! From the hiring of the hall to the to the catering, even a small wedding can cost a mint. Paying per head ultimately creates a 'most essential' invitee list. And if you have a massive family, you know, what a serious headache this is going to be. You try to please yourself, family and friends, but you know something has to give. You may be on the receiving end of being cut. You were wanted, but a place had to be given to Great Auntie Susu, even though the bride and groom have never met the damn woman.
5. You Don't Know How To Behave In Public
A couple's wedding is clearly a big deal. And though some YouTube videos might infer the contrary, the couple getting hitched want everything to run smoothly and in the process create some life long amazing memories. You, dear sir or madam have proven time and time again, to be a social liability and no couple wants their fairytale ruined. No one deliberately invites the Wicked Witch Of The West or Rumpelstiltskin to create drama and destroy their special day.
A couple's wedding is clearly a big deal. And though some YouTube videos might infer the contrary, the couple getting hitched want everything to run smoothly and in the process create some life long amazing memories. You, dear sir or madam have proven time and time again, to be a social liability and no couple wants their fairytale ruined. No one deliberately invites the Wicked Witch Of The West or Rumpelstiltskin to create drama and destroy their special day.
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6. Family Feuds
Families are good at maintaining arguments...even through multiple generations. If it is you stoking the fires, then it is probably you who will not get invited. Alternatively, out of the two sides with valid grievances, the bridal party may still prefer your opponents to you and well - they get the invite!
Families are good at maintaining arguments...even through multiple generations. If it is you stoking the fires, then it is probably you who will not get invited. Alternatively, out of the two sides with valid grievances, the bridal party may still prefer your opponents to you and well - they get the invite!
7. You Never Invite Them
Constant party animal or once-in-awhile celebrator, anytime you have an event, you never invite them, so in their hearts, they don't feel the need to make you part of their special day.
Constant party animal or once-in-awhile celebrator, anytime you have an event, you never invite them, so in their hearts, they don't feel the need to make you part of their special day.
8. The Fear Of Being Upstaged / Jealousy
Wedding Law 152 - Thou Shalt Not Upstage The Wedding Couple. Some people can't help themselves. Whatever the occasion, some people just want to draw attention to themselves. But in defence of those who don't mean to do this, some people are just naturally stylish or enjoy constructing wonderful outfits. This coupled with a charismatic or vibrant personality, can have you stealing the show without meaning to.
Wedding Law 152 - Thou Shalt Not Upstage The Wedding Couple. Some people can't help themselves. Whatever the occasion, some people just want to draw attention to themselves. But in defence of those who don't mean to do this, some people are just naturally stylish or enjoy constructing wonderful outfits. This coupled with a charismatic or vibrant personality, can have you stealing the show without meaning to.
9. You Make Everything About You
If there is something I have personally seen and come to understand (sort of understand) about certain people, is that within a celebratory environment, some can make any occasion about them. They use their connection to whoever is being celebrated, to promote or grandstand themselves, making their relationship seem more than it is. They get involved in organising (or as we like to call it - ordering people about) and think they should be on the high table, served first and receive a lot of other honours. Lately people have taken to proposing at other people's weddings! But I say take heed of the following quote as seen on social media "If you propose at my wedding, I'll renew my vows @ yours, go into labour at ur baby shower, & die @ ur funeral. Please don't try me."
If there is something I have personally seen and come to understand (sort of understand) about certain people, is that within a celebratory environment, some can make any occasion about them. They use their connection to whoever is being celebrated, to promote or grandstand themselves, making their relationship seem more than it is. They get involved in organising (or as we like to call it - ordering people about) and think they should be on the high table, served first and receive a lot of other honours. Lately people have taken to proposing at other people's weddings! But I say take heed of the following quote as seen on social media "If you propose at my wedding, I'll renew my vows @ yours, go into labour at ur baby shower, & die @ ur funeral. Please don't try me."
10. You Never Attend Their Events
In reverse to no 7, when they invite you to their events, you never go, so in this instance, you were considered, quickly discussed and cut. Also if reason no.4 is a factor, I don't doubt, that you will be one of the first to be struck off.
In reverse to no 7, when they invite you to their events, you never go, so in this instance, you were considered, quickly discussed and cut. Also if reason no.4 is a factor, I don't doubt, that you will be one of the first to be struck off.
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