A life lesson about those who built a foundation that you may plant a house on...
For many years, I've heard these 3 words, this sentiment in conversation. It describes a man that is usually good and decent, but has not yet reached a certain status in life or work, to be the exact partner that 'she' wants. However, a new age has been ushered in and it's called the 'Dealing With What You Have Got era, as The 'He Has Potential' movement has been scheduled for execution and will be slain soon!
I get it. Really - I do. Life is hard and full of an infinite amount of choices, where the wrong decisions will waste your time at best or leave you broken and distraught at worst. In the choosing of a mate, with the sheer energy, logistics and social pressures involved, you tend to want to get this whole dance right the first time...However, let's be honest, to find a highly compatible partner these days, is like looking for a needle, in a bunch of needles, that has been thrown in the air.
In ancient days, where society was very tribal (and in some cultures nothing has changed) a woman would have been constantly around the man, that she would eventually choose. She would have been looking at all the qualities, of all the men in her tribe, monitoring their changes. Sub-consciously, there would have been an analysing of what type of 'potential' he was going to have and a watching of what positive attributes he displayed in and around the community. As they all grew up together, years of essential observation could lead her to a very informed decision, where making a choice would factor-in elements of survival and cultural ascension - the building blocks to a better best life. Nobody would aim to choose a mate, that was going to be useless and take you to the polar opposite of a rich life, the aim would be to choose a man with a knack for creating resources or dare I say it attaining power.
"It might serve a person, to ask themselves a very important question in the whole area of 'he has potential' which is: If he never amounted to more than he was right now, would I be happy with him?"
In modern society it has now become an openly examined and a spoken about thing, that is, to rank a man's potential. It's a water cooler discussion point, where it is deduced which men are seemingly heading in the right direction, to clinch some sort of 'good' future, that would be agreeable with her. Well I am here to break up that party and perhaps save a few broken hearts and shattered dreams in the process, because the world is too volatile and dynamic to think that one man against the current system, is powerful enough to always come out and stay on top, no matter how hard he tries or his skill set. It might serve a person, to ask themselves a very important question, in the whole area of he has potential which is: 'if he never amounted to more than he was right now, would I be happy with him?'
If the answer is no, then your desire for him is not as strong as your like for his potential status in life. Potential is about lifestyle and aspirations and it is not a crime to want whoever your partner is, to be great at whatever he does. But then what is a partnership to you, in regards to the realm of marriage? Yes, he could surpass all your wildest expectations, but then he could be brought to his knees by unknown factors. Ultimately, your choice is always going to be a gamble, he, by himself, beyond what he does and owns, has to be enough for you and you have to accept him wholeheartedly. If he then goes on to achieve anything beyond the level you met him at, consider that a bonus. Alternatively, simply go and find a man with that status you crave so dearly. Find that fully incarnated and living man, already living their full potential. Then there is no need for you to guess or wait for a man to ascend. It's a shame that many don't want to become part of the building process, I mean imagine the terrific bond you would create working together as a team, building together.
If you ever come across a man and truly feel that he is not good enough for you, so be it. Be honest with yourself and venture out to get the fully assembled model that is waiting for you...of course you just have to find him first and there is that little thing of he thinking that you are also worthy in the first place too.
What is the agenda? No legal force outside of the black communities are doing anything to help, so let us face the horrible truth. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO KILL BLACK PEOPLES.
You couldn't make this up!
'Please Stop Killing Us' equals to being in a terrorist group.
September 20th 2016: The 2 latest killings: an unarmed man with his hands up following police directions and a disabled man, sitting in his car, waiting to pick his son up from school.
In the video, pick the point where you think that Terence Crutcher became so 'dangerous' that he had to be shot to death. Listen to the commentators, listen to the conclusion that one of them comes to about terence with no prior knowledge of of him and how they are more concerned about the traffic flow. What does that show you about black lives? That they don't matter hence the hashtag.
THE RIDICULOUS MEASURES THAT HAVE TO BE TAKEN JUST TO MAKE SURE A SAID PERSON DOESN'T GET SHOT!
Please find an excuse for every single case, I am really interested in hearing how all of these deaths had to happen, or were avoidable. You justify these and know you are evil.
It is not complicated. If you think that subjecting a people to lesser rights in all ways, to the point that you are happy to kill them or see them killed, then consider yourself evil. Why even bother making ridiculous excuses, just own it.
If injustice is allowed to carry on for a specific group, eventually, it will transcend to those who think, that this type of thing would never happen to them. Why? Because Evil Knows No Bounds.
THIS TYPE OF POLICING - YES!!!
THIS TYPE OF POLICING - NO!!!
Having graduated from the Home Page, RC and IK are now embarking on their own blogging adventures to examine the world of social curiosities and romantic anthropology.