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Still A Tale Of The 21st Century? - Breadwinner Woes

24/3/2016

 
Patriarchy's 'traditional commands' still continue to loom over common sense and universal well-being, to the extent that even women are dangerously toying with relationship sabotage and suicide because of outdated thinking. An examination of this so called 'dilemma' below indicates that we have a long way to go before achieving a true male-female balance in society.
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I am very interested in the notion, that this dynamic can still conjure up some sort of controversy. When I began reading this post about that couple's wedding, I imagined some dastardly
scenario was about to be explained, some sort of super-con unleashed that would make Ocean's Eleven look like an amateur's guide. To my surprise, I saw a tale of true love, where the 'con' was not a con at all.

In 2016, in the 21st frikken century, if this scenario is still a radical idea to you, then you go on ahead and believe what you want to, but hold on to your peace and let everybody else get on with their lives. The fact that somebody believed, that this is still a debatable topic, shows a subconscious belief that a man should still be earning more than the woman, which I imagine puts him in charge right? Does financial 
superiority in a relationship equal power over the relationship? If that's the type of masculine you're running or wanting, then the type of relationship you actually desire, is closer to a business agreement with a heavy 'do as I say or else' clause included.

Earlier, I mentioned 'true love' because real love pushes through 
nonsensical barriers. I mean what does it signify if the woman earns more than the man? To me - nothing!

If you want the man to lead the household, earning less in no way impairs him to do this. If you believe that it does then your idea of leadership is about control and manipulation. "Do as I say or I won't feed you, or put a roof over your head".
The One Potential Problem
There may come a time where he wants to do/buy/arrange something for his partner, that she can/has afforded for herself. But he can't because it is out of his price range. If there is an understanding 
about the reality of this said type of situation and similar scenarios in advance and they have a full understanding, then there will be no problems except for the ones that they create. She can't later on, throw his monetary status in his face and he can't suddenly become insecure because of her wealth and all it brings.
On Being Equally Yoked
As for the term equally yoked: whether you are ascribing to the Christian connotation or a general sense of the word, the union you enter into, has to make sense regardless of your financial status. If the financial positions were reversed, how would the man earning more money suddenly make the couple equally yoked? That is some Animal Farm foolishness right there. There is still an imbalance of earnings, so...what? Your 'equal' is fine if it works in your favour...clearly your definition of equal is very different to the dictionary's one. As far as I am concerned, equally yoked is about having sensible synchronicity. If you're a vegan, I mean someone who doesn't eat, wear or
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Orson Welles' Animal Farm
use the by-products of any animal, you can't be in union with a hardcore carnivore, that doesn't care about any of that stuff. If you attend the church of satan, then it probably wouldn't work out with a Jehovah's Witness devotee because your values are diametrically opposed. Be of equal standing and values, not contrary lifestyles that have you moving in completely different directions and causing a rift. ​
UNEQUALLY YOKED RIGHT HERE

Todd Chrisley: "He doesn't have a job, he lives in his mama's basement... what is wrong with you?"Love this dude!!!

Posted by Steve Harvey TV on Tuesday, 22 March 2016
AND FINALLY...
YOU CAN'T EXPECT TO DEFEAT WAGE GAP INJUSTICES

IF YOU AGREE WITH THE MALE HAVING TO BE
THE FINANCIER OF A RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY LIFE AND EVERYTHING ELSE AS A RULE.
SEE THE CONNECTION AND THE KNOCK ON EFFECT PLEASE!

TAKEN ​FROM THE EVENING STANDARD 23/03/16
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