I am very interested in the notion, that this dynamic can still conjure up some sort of controversy. When I began reading this post about that couple's wedding, I imagined some dastardly
scenario was about to be explained, some sort of super-con unleashed that would make Ocean's Eleven look like an amateur's guide. To my surprise, I saw a tale of true love, where the 'con' was not a con at all.
In 2016, in the 21st frikken century, if this scenario is still a radical idea to you, then you go on ahead and believe what you want to, but hold on to your peace and let everybody else get on with their lives. The fact that somebody believed, that this is still a debatable topic, shows a subconscious belief that a man should still be earning more than the woman, which I imagine puts him in charge right? Does financial superiority in a relationship equal power over the relationship? If that's the type of masculine you're running or wanting, then the type of relationship you actually desire, is closer to a business agreement with a heavy 'do as I say or else' clause included.
Earlier, I mentioned 'true love' because real love pushes through nonsensical barriers. I mean what does it signify if the woman earns more than the man? To me - nothing!
If you want the man to lead the household, earning less in no way impairs him to do this. If you believe that it does then your idea of leadership is about control and manipulation. "Do as I say or I won't feed you, or put a roof over your head".
There may come a time where he wants to do/buy/arrange something for his partner, that she can/has afforded for herself. But he can't because it is out of his price range. If there is an understanding about the reality of this said type of situation and similar scenarios in advance and they have a full understanding, then there will be no problems except for the ones that they create. She can't later on, throw his monetary status in his face and he can't suddenly become insecure because of her wealth and all it brings.
On Being Equally Yoked
As for the term equally yoked: whether you are ascribing to the Christian connotation or a general sense of the word, the union you enter into, has to make sense regardless of your financial status. If the financial positions were reversed, how would the man earning more money suddenly make the couple equally yoked? That is some Animal Farm foolishness right there. There is still an imbalance of earnings, so...what? Your 'equal' is fine if it works in your favour...clearly your definition of equal is very different to the dictionary's one. As far as I am concerned, equally yoked is about having sensible synchronicity. If you're a vegan, I mean someone who doesn't eat, wear or
YOU CAN'T EXPECT TO DEFEAT WAGE GAP INJUSTICES
IF YOU AGREE WITH THE MALE HAVING TO BE
THE FINANCIER OF A RELATIONSHIP & FAMILY LIFE AND EVERYTHING ELSE AS A RULE.
SEE THE CONNECTION AND THE KNOCK ON EFFECT PLEASE!
TAKEN FROM THE EVENING STANDARD 23/03/16