"By 2030, 45% of working women aged 25-44 in the United States will be single. That will be the largest share in history, according to research by Morgan Stanley using data by the Bureau Of Labor Statistics". We ask the question why?
Our Modern Dating Position
If you are in your late 30s to early/mid 40s, then I would say that you/we are only the second (and third) generation to move within a dating-relationship matrix that is only about 55 years old. This means we are somewhat still undergoing an on-going, ever-changing experiment with 'new' power dynamics forming and being reshaped all the time. One of the oddities of western societies modern outlook; is that we still continue to draw on bits and pieces from old patriarchal systems (Regency, Victorian, Edwardian) and unsuccessfully combine these old modes with newer ideas from different waves of feminism and intersectional civil rights.
How We Are Working Our Dating Scene Is Kinda Haphazard
This mish-mash of values has confused the playing field no end and the standards and preferences pic'n'mix approach to dating seems to have proponents drawing on what is selfishly advantageous to them, rather than advantageous to the relationship as a whole. I would say that many of the current outlooks and conventions (especially in the States) associated with women's freedom (independence) are now actually closer to ideas of separation and often, if a union is wanted after having been submerged in those waters for too long, ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be, sound like a transactional exchange of services through warped entitlement. This is perhaps why many of us are finding the relationship game unnecessarily hard or even pointless, as working together seems to be based on heavy inequality - the complete opposite of the original aim.
Impending Doom Due To Selfishness
The benefits of patriarchy and the freedoms of feminism are being brought together for selfish gain, creating a confusing state in which to operate - even if you don't willingly or heavily subscribe to either. The reality is; that in this age we have the option to customise our relationships in the most unique beneficial ways, never granted to any other time period (I think) but for some reason, this has actually led to relationship retrograde now sprinkled with a bit of malice and a lot of uncooperation.
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